We have all heard the stereotype about people in their 40s having a mid-life crisis. Usually it’s about men running out to buy a shiny new car, or leaving their 20 year long marriages for a 20-something girlfriend. We roll our eyes because of the sad ridiculousness of it, but we go through them just the same. It’s hard to face the idea that your life might be halfway over. What have you done?! What can you change? Where can you improve? In fact, there are a lot of phases of life that are hard to face.
One of the newest in the crisis realm is the quarter-life crisis. By new I mean, I had one and knew what to call it so really it’s not new. Maybe you know it, maybe you’re in it. For those who don’t know, let’s spell out the basics of what we are talking about. This usually happens for people between 20 and 28. They have left home (or are about to), have completed their education (or most of it), have very fresh careers (if one at all), and are on the cusp of starting a family (or have started one and are nervously thinking they aren’t ready). In short, if life was a cafeteria style restaurant they are standing at the first station being asked which meat and three they want and have no idea how to choose from the vast array of different foods that all look equally tempting.
All the people in their mid life are rolling their eyes right now, I see you!! This is not about you. You will get your own blog entry.
Don’t listen to them, 20-somethings, the struggle is real. From your perspective you have a LOT a LOT of decisions, VERY IMPORTANT DECISIONS to make and you don’t even know how to go about making them!! All your life so far people have told you that you can be ANYTHING and now you’re starting to realize that you’re already too old to start training to be in the Olympics. Choices are narrowing and your clock is officially ticking. There are SO MANY things you want to do and you feel like there is a sensible order in which to make the choices. You want a good career that you’re passionate about but also a family. You know the short list of things you feel really passionate about but aren’t sure how to make a career out of them. AND to make things worse you’re staring down the barrel of student loan bills that you definitely aren’t sure you can afford to pay. You’re leaving the comforts of your parents house to the sad one bedroom apartment with used furniture that feels nothing like a home. You have total faith in yourself, for about 30 minutes a day.
The pain and confusion you feel is real. It’s a massive negative side effect of living in the land of opportunity. You can and will get through it.
If you need help (and can afford it) Jennifer can help you sort it out.