Picture it, a brawny super hero in a tight red suit and a blue cape who swoops in to defend the defenseless. Always ready at the drop of a hat to protect the weak, scared people of our society. He has ultra sonic hearing and can hear someone in line at a grocery store about to get ripped off and he swoops in and gives that no good cashier what for! He can see rubber-neckers bottling up traffic near a fender bender and swoop in to tell them where they can shove it! He has a booming and frightening voice that sends fear down the spine of all mere mortals.
His name is Captain Rage and he has your back. He will never let you look like a fool, be taken advantage of, or be humiliated. He kicks people ass and is not afraid of getting in a bar fight if necessary. He will tell people to meet him outside. He also has lots of mug shots. He also spends too much time on your couch. He eats all your food and has kicked your spouse out of bed. He scares your kids and even your dog.
Ok really, the guy is an ass, and for a while you needed him around but now he is causing more harm than good. You don’t know how to get him out of your house. You’re worried you have grown too comfortable with his presence and you don’t know how to function without him.
As lighthearted as this illustration is, anger, raging and violent behaviors are scary, difficult problems that can feel very overwhelming. You don’t have to confront them on your own. There are lots of ways of dealing with anger and rage. Find a good counselor and talk it out.